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Monday, February 20, 2017

Romance - A Story for Everyone



Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women's Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual traditions that nurture the soul.

I’m writing this post earlier in the month, to be precise almost two weeks before you will see it. At Romancing The Genre, the Genre-istas are sharing “My Most Romantic … ?” and if you start at the beginning of the month with Robin Weaver’s “The Most Romantic Potato” and read through each post until here, you’ll find a wide array of interpretations of the suggested topic.

I talk about “heat levels” in my books, Paty Jager shares the little things that have kept her 38 years of marriage strong and Kristin Wallace includes an excerpt from her soon-to-be released Shellwater Key tale.

One of the things I love about writing and reading romance is there is a story for just about everyone.

If you’ve an interest in history, here are historical romances set in Medieval, Renaissance, Middle Ages, Regency, Victorian, American West --- you name the era and there is, most likely a romantic story set then.

Science? What about scifi? Remember, the science fiction of last century is becoming our reality today.

Suspense? Thrillers? Yes, there are authors who write romantic suspense and thrillers.

And then there are the ones who have fantastic imaginations! They are the writers of fantasy and paranormal romance. The good ones make sure the world they’ve created is sustained through all of the stories set in that place and time.

What I love about Romancing The Genres is our diversity. You can find just about any kind of romance you are interested in here. If you don’t have the time or inclination to check us out every day, you can check our Genre-ista page and scroll down to see who’s who and what we write.

Not only can romances be set in any era, they can take place at any time of the day or night and in any known or unknown country or galaxy.

To me, a good romance touches my heart and leaves me with a sense of satisfaction, even a smile on my lips as I envision the characters I’ve fallen in love with enjoying their future together.

Of course my goal is that when you read my books, you have those same feelings!

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Monday, February 13, 2017

Love Is More Than A Feeling

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual practices that nourish the soul and celebrates the journey from relationship to romance.

I write romance—a blessing, a gift, a way to balance my life because for over fifty years I worked as a private guardian and geriatric care manager and/or in child welfare and/or in an emergency after hour’s capacity for vulnerable adults. My professional life has shown me all too clearly that there can be a gigantic disconnect between the words “I love you” and the actions we’d expect from someone who truly does love us. I am consciously choosing not to site numerous examples but I do invite you to think about where you may have experienced or born witness to that disconnect.

Because of my professional (and some personal) experiences, I know love is more than a feeling. We tell others “I love you”. We hear “I love you, too” said back. At times someone may say “I love you” first and we repeat back that we love that person “too”.

In my short story “Is He The One?” available through Windtree Press’s anthology, Gifts of the Heart, my heroine, Sophia Denton uses Dr. William Glasser’s Basic Psychological Needs to sort through her feelings and find the answer to Jonathan’s proposal. She readily acknowledges they love each other (the feeling). 

Her question is: Is that enough? While she herself has not been abused, she is aware of the issue of domestic violence and child abuse. Committed to doing her very best not to get caught in that “but I love him” trap, she decides to delve deeper into the conundrum of love, to determine for herself if there is a disconnect between how she and Jonathan ‘feel’ about each other and how they treat each other.

Dr. Glasser talked and wrote about the importance of loving relationships in our lives. He also talked and wrote about the reality that the only person whose behavior we have control over is our own.

It is a myth to think that we really can “make” someone do something. There are people every day who literally die for their beliefs and that has been true throughout history. It is at times convenient to say “I couldn’t help it” or “S/he made me”. When I hear those words, I know that isn’t actually true. The truth is more along the line of “I didn’t know how to say “no” because s/he is bigger than I am (or has more power as in could fire me, etc.) or it is easier to go along than to stand up for my beliefs or s/he might not like me anymore (in some circumstances we call that peer pressure).

From my perspective relationship problems occur because someone is trying to make the other(s) do something different. And in an effort to be successful, they use one of Dr. Glasser’s Seven Deadly Habits. (You can read more about The Deadlies here).

Here are 4 questions that may assist you in creating happier, healthier and more loving 
relationships in your life.

1. Looking at your most important relationships and using a scale of 1 – 10 with 10 being high/good and 1 low/bad, how congruent are the words and actions of the people you love towards you?

2. Looking at your most important relationships and using a scale of 1 – 10 with 10 being high/good and l1 low/bad, how congruent are Your Words and Actions towards the people in your life you love?

3. When you look at the disconnect, what are the others attempting to get or accomplish with their behavior?

4. What are you trying to get or accomplish in those relationships where there is a disconnect?

Please share your thoughts and ask questions! I’ll do my best to expand on Dr. Glasser’s concepts in my answers.


In addition to writing romance, Judith is on the Senior Teaching Faculty of William Glasser International. Learn more about her workwith Dr. Glasser’s concepts including her training schedule and/or check out The William Glasser Institute for more information on training and educational opportunities worldwide.

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Monday, February 6, 2017

What Is This Thing Called "Love"?

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women's Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual traditions that nurture the soul.

I picked “love” and it’s off-shoot “romance” as my theme for February.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines “love” (n) as strong affection; warm attachment as in love of the sea; strong sexual attraction; a beloved person; and unselfish benevolent concern for others.

As a verb? CHERISH; To Feel a Passion, Devotion or Tenderness for; CARESS; to take pleasure in. (The Caps are theirs).

As an author of romance novels (The Sacred Women’s Circle series), I immerse myself in the finer points of love whenever I write. It is a joy and at times a burden. Why?

Authors are told to never disappoint their readers. And that readers come to expect certain types of stories from an author. So, how to write the story and not disappoint the reader?

I’m not sure I know the answer to that. My goal has become to tell the story that needs to be told through these characters and hope for the best.

Since my books all feature a romance, I’m also to hold to a certain “heat” level. How many love scenes? How explicit? Etc.

I will admit I’ve failed on that account also.

In terms of sex scenes, Elizabeth has the most in number. And to begin with they are more sex scenes as she throws constraints and caution away and embarks on an adventure in Ireland. After all, no one knows her, so why not?

Lily and Diana must overcome the effects of domestic violence and, in Diana’s case, serial infidelity before they can trust enough to allow another man into their lives.

But then we come to Ashley. Ashley is battling recurrent breast cancer. Is she likely to hop into bed when she’s sick from chemo and worry? But there it is. Still a love story.

Hunter is another book where the love scenes are lacking although to be honest, her daughter is drugged and rape.

Gabriella’s sense of self-worth and distrust of men must be overcome before she can ever open her heart to the man who’s waited for her since the first book in the series. Spoiler alert! She does fight her way to healing and love (and there are love scenes).

And last but not least Sophia. How does a widow, who is committed to life fall in love with a divorced jaded police officer? Obviously she does but as they are in their mid to late forties, is their journey any different than that of the younger women?

So readers will find heat levels from sweet to heat but no erotica.

Readers will find continuing characters through all Seven Stories. After all the seven of them do belong to The Circle. And The Circle ties them together. No matter what happens they learn and then grow to know with a certainty that together they can conquer all.

I’m blessed to have been in a sacred women’s circle for over twenty years and that experience has made a significant difference in my life.

Who is your “circle”?

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Monday, January 30, 2017

Taking Care of Yourself = Personal Responsibility

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women's Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual traditions that nurture the soul.

What does that mean?

To me it means I do not expect other people to “make” my life happy, fulfilled or whatever word you want to use.



I am responsible for my happiness, for my achievements, for how I respond to life events over which I have no control.

If you aren’t aware of the following books, read them and you’ll see what I mean.

Denis Waitley            “The Winners Edge”
                                   “The Seeds of Greatness”

Viktor E. Frankl          “Man’s Search for Meaning”

Deepak Chopra        “Quantum Healing”
                                 “Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting The Soul”

Daniel Amen              “Magnificent Mind at Any Age”

William Glasser         “Take Charge of Your Life”
                                  “Choice Theory”

And, if you’d like to explore these ideas in a fiction format, you’ll find these concepts as a foundation in my Sacred Women’s Circle series.

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And Elizabeth, Book Two is available through January 31, 2017 for $.99.

Questions, comments? Please share! I love engaging with you!!!



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Monday, January 23, 2017

Taking Care of Yourself = Thinking Positive

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women's Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual traditions that nurture the soul.

 Every cloud has a silver lining.

There is a gift for us in every part of our lives.

I learned so much about myself in my short marriage. I learned how important words are to me and I also learned the language of action. You know the adage, actions speak louder than words? Well, I finally realized, a little too late as we were already divorced and he had remarried, that his actions had “told” me he loved me.

To help me stay in a positive frame of mind, I do look at things in a certain way. Here are the ones that work best for me.

 I do not consider that I’ve failed. Instead I frame it as I accomplish xx% of my goal.

Everything that happens as a gift for me. So when my brain was completely scrambled after an automobile accident, it wasn’t easy for me to find the gift but I did. I treated myself differently. I no longer had long lists of expectations. I was more realistic about what I could do. I focused on being safe and happy. My awareness of what I enjoyed was heightened. Before I found the right therapy, I’d built a cozy contented life for myself. It was limited in many, many ways but I was happy. 

I use the principles of Dr. William Glasser’s Choice Theory and Reality Therapy as cornerstones for my life. I teach classes on these core principles. Check them out on my website. And, I’ll be presenting the “Balancing Your Writing Life and Your Real Life” at the Desert Dreams Writers Conference, June 1 – 4, 2017 in Scottsdale, AZ.

And I have a core cadre of friends I can talk to when I need extra support and encouragement as well as reminders of the above.

How do you keep yourself in a positive frame of mind?


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Monday, January 16, 2017

Taking Care of Yourself = Letting Go

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women's Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual traditions that nurture the soul.

I did say in the first post on Taking Care of Yourself to focus on what went well in 2016 and I meant that then. However, what I also know to be true is that we can drag along those events, items, relationships, etc. that didn’t go as we wanted.

So this Monday let’s focus on “Taking Care of Yourself = Letting Go”.

A couple of questions:

Do you find yourself thinking about something or someone that “got away”? You know, the idea you didn’t follow through with. The relationship that sputtered out and died. The 2016 goals you set that you didn’t achieve and that you regret.

In my tradition, we have a variety of ways to “let go” of things that no longer serve us.

One of my favorites is the “Death Arrow”. Find a stick or use a wooden dowel. Take a piece of paper and write on it those feelings, ideas, etc. you want to release. Take some red yarn or string and tie the folded paper to the stick. And then burn it. Watch it burn and as the flames destroy the paper and stick, know that you’ve let go.

Don’t have a fireplace, use a BBQ grill. Don’t have that, use a tin can or a container filled with sand. If you do this outside, just be careful that you do not have flammables nearby. I’ve seen flames burst forth and shoot high with some Death Arrows. I’ve also seen some take For Ever to burn. My first one was the latter. I thought it would never finish burning…but I’d put some heavy stuff on that paper so upon reflection, it made sense to me.

Another method is to write things out or maybe draw pictures, take out appropriate photographs, cut out pictures from magazines, create a collage of words and graphics and then destroy it. Fire is really the best way to do this but you can slice it into ribbons and put it in the trash. If you choose the trash, I’d make sure the pieces are scattered. Maybe put bits and pieces out at two different times or if it feels right, ask a friend or neighbor to take part of the confetti-paper and get rid of it.

Still another option, especially if what you want to let go of is all about you, is to write a letter to yourself explaining why it is important to Let Go of whatever you are holding on to. Go the whole distance and mail it to yourself. (No emails here. Writing it out by hand is an important part of the process).

If you want to share, please do. But, it may be uncomfortable to do so depending on how personal “Letting Go” is for you.

PS: If you meditate or have other mindful practices, you may get good results by focusing a session or two on “Letting Go”.

Whatever works!


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Monday, January 9, 2017

Taking Care of Yourself - Your 2017 Word

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women's Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual traditions that nurture the soul.

“What is Your 2017 Word?”

Several people I know pick a word to focus on as a theme for themselves for the year. My best friend has done that for years. A blog post I read the morning I wrote these posts, also mentioned it.

My suggestion is to spend quiet time and sort through words that evoke a positive sense of well-being or an eager challenge.

Some ideas are “love” “loyal” “caring” “kind” “compassion” “finish” “complete” “friendship” “honest” “charitable”

I’ll go first! “DO”

In Star Wars, Yoda tells a young Luke Skywalker that there is no Try, only Do. What this means to me is not so much about “doing” but to be clear. Stop and make a conscious or mindful decision. Is this the direction I want to go? Is this an activity I want to participate in? Make a decision and then Do. For me this mean to stop dithering or nattering.

Stop, Decide, Do.

How will your life be different if every day, when you first woke up, you recalled your 2017 word?

Please share!!!

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