Judith is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series,
romantic fiction that honors spiritual practices that nourish the soul and
celebrates the journey from relationship to romance.
Unconditional
Support is another foundational building block for a healthy relationship and
in creating a sacred women’s circle. Again “unconditional” means without limits
or strings. There are supports in physical structures that allow them to stand.
If you watch programs on the Home and Garden Network (HGTV) you hear the term “supporting
wall” which means that wall is helping to keep the house intact and without it,
the house will cave in.
There
is also financial support, technical support and emotional support to name a
few.
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| Gimi, Lois, Connie = Unconditional Support |
Parents
support their children into adulthood.
Companies
support their customers—and if they do a good job, their customers will come
back time and time again.
People
support causes and organizations that they believe in both through donations
and volunteering.
One
of the caveats in a sacred women’s circle is that when the talking stone (or in
some traditions the talking stick) is passed around, the other members hold
their silence. They listen but unless asked or given permission, do not speak
up.
From
my perspective that is a gift. To be able to talk, to speak one’s mind, to bare
one’s soul in a place of unconditional acceptance and support is healing.
Sometimes all we need to do is say the words out loud and we will see our own
answers or we will feel better.
There
comes a time in each of my books when the heroine receives the unconditional
support of her circle sisters. One type of unconditional support comes in the
form of “hovering” but the other more integral form is the knowledge that the
other women are there. All it will take is a call, a reaching out and everyone
will show up.
When
Lily is in a disabling accident, The Circle rallies around making sure she and
her home are taken care of.
When
Elizabeth cannot see her way through her dilemma, The Circle rallies and
assists her in finding her path so she can have Michael in Ireland and still
belong to The Circle in Fremont.
When
Diana dithers about divorcing her abusive husband and accepting the help and
protection of Mathew, it is The Circle that shelters her and supports her until
she sees her way clear.
When
Ashley and her children are abandoned when she is dealing with recurrent breast
cancer, again, The Circle and “the second string” step in.
When
Hunter’s daughter, Logan, runs away, The Circle rallies around the distraught single
mom, searches for the lost daughter and vets the newly discovered father.
When
Gabriella’s efforts to heal from an abusive childhood are thwarted, The Circle
is there offering unconditional love and support.
When
Sophia’s fear of a future with Cam is exacerbated because of the death of her
first husband, The Circle listens and shares perspectives that help her see a
life with him.
In
unconditionally supportive relationships, when we speak up and ask for what we
need, if it is within the power of the others we are given it. Of course, as
you will see when you read my books, sometimes the asking is the most difficult
part of being in a relationship where there is Unconditional Support.
Where
in your life do you receive Unconditional Support?
And
if that isn’t present in your life, what would your life be life if it was?
Please
leave a comment. I’m very interested in your perspective even if you disagree.
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