Judith Ashley: Dr. Denis Waitley

Monday, August 6, 2018

I Know How To Practice Perfectly

Finally!!!

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual practices that nourish the soul and celebrates the journey from relationship to romance.

What we’ve covered:

Your Expectations of yourself are positive.

Your Motivation is internal.

Your Image of yourself is congruent with your expectations.

Your Direction has specificity.

Your Control takes the form of personal responsibility for your choices and actions.

Today we’re talking about Self-Discipline. Neither Dr. Denis Waitley nor Dr. William Glasser see self-discipline as a demanding, harsh “make yourself” do it practice.

Waitley talks about self-discipline as internally practicing those attributes you need to be successful.

Glasser talks about self-discipline being a behavior we choose that helps us be successful in our endeavors.

Perfect Practice is not only about practicing – it’s about Perfect Practice. And, where can we engage in Perfect Practice? In our creative minds.

If you follow any sport you’ll see the athlete, before they take that shot, throw that picture, swing that bat, shoot down the ski slope or take to the ice, go within where they “see” or imagine themselves perfectly performing. In their imaginations they never fall, miss a shot or fail.

Dr. Waitley tells the stories of POW’s, musicians, Olympic athletes and astronauts using Perfect Practice. These stories are amazing and I encourage you to either purchase Dr. Waitley’s book or audio program to hear the details.

In his book Positive Addiction, Dr. Glasser writes about people who use a positive behavior over and over and over until they have the same physical withdrawals a drug or alcohol addict has. One of the things I learned when reading this book was that we can replace a negative addiction with a positive one.

To master the quality of self-discipline, we practice being successful. We see ourselves engaged in the activity whether it is on the tennis court or leading a seminar. We visualize ourselves on the clay or grass court, on the stage at the podium. We mentally practice our backhand, our serve, we see ourselves engaged with the audience, our voice and gestures adding to the content of our presentation. We may even sit in the stands and visualize ourselves on the court, making every serve, returning every shot. We may stand on the stage, behind the podium while mentally running through what we want to say.

And in that mental moment before it becomes our physical moment, we see ourselves at our best, matching that self-image we have of ourselves. It isn’t about practicing, it’s about Perfect Practice. And, it’s about liking ourselves just as we are while still striving to improve.

Next week? Do I “esteem” the person I see in the mirror?

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Monday, July 9, 2018

I Want To Do It!

Available Summer 2018

Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic fiction that honors spiritual practices that nourish the soul and celebrates the journey from relationship to romance.

Last week we looked at your self-expectancy. Now you’ve taken a look at the task and decided “I Can Do It.”

What comes next? Do You Want To Do It?

Knowing you can do it and wanting to do it are two very different things.

It’s easy when you know you can do it and want to do it – in fact that combination is very energizing.

As an author I know I can write books and I want to write books – so I have. I don’t need someone else telling me I can do, although encouraging words are always welcome.

I’ve studied both Dr. Denis Waitley and Dr. William Glasser who have similar points of view on “Motivation” in that both believe and demonstrate that we are internally motivated. In reality no one can make us do anything we truly don’t want to do. People die every day rather than give up their autonomy, independence or (you fill in the blank).

Of course not everyone has a cause they would die for or that they know they would die for. In my previous life as a child protective service worker and as a private geriatric case manager, I did put myself at risk on more than one occasion to protect the vulnerable.

In fact Chapter One in Lily: The Dragon and The Great Horned Owl is based on a real life experience in my CPS days. And I was threatened and I did have PTSD, nightmares, etc. I did have my routine that helped calm the terror and allowed me to go back to bed.

Back to our everyday kind of motivation. The reality is we do things we don’t want to do or don’t like to do for very specific reasons. Some of them are:

Someone we know, love, care about wants us to do it.

We don’t want to live with the consequences.

We fear the consequences.

It’s who we believe we are or what we are meant to do.

If you are fearless, you won’t pay taxes because you don’t care if you go to jail.

You won’t do what someone you love or care about wants because you don’t care if they are unhappy, upset, angry or even leave you.

You won’t clean house because you don’t care if you live in filth.

And you do make the choice to do many things you don’t like or want to because it is who you are – what you expect of yourself.

And that ties into next week’s topic “Self-Image.” See you then!