Judith Ashley
is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic fiction that honors
spiritual practices that nourish the soul and celebrates the journey from
relationship to romance.
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What we’ve
covered:
Your Expectations of yourself are positive.
Your Motivation is internal.
Your Image of yourself is congruent with
your expectations.
Your Direction has specificity.
Your Control takes the form of personal
responsibility for your choices and actions.
Your Discipline includes internal perfect
practice.
You Esteem yourself.
You
want to be successful, maybe you are well on the road to your goal and maybe,
just maybe you’ve arrived. So, how do
you wear your success? Are you an in it to win it regardless person? Or are you
in the win-win camp? I win if you win and vice-versa.
One
of my favorite movies is Pretty Woman. I love that movie on many levels but
in particular the growth Edward makes from being a ruthless business man to one
with compassion touches my heart.
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And,
being a member of the romance writers’ community more often than not I’m in a
win-win atmosphere. The concept of “pay it forward” is alive and well. It’s an
every-day-kind-of-event for other writers to offer their expertise, many times
for free, to help me or someone else through a tough patch whether in their writing
or non-writing life.
While
I am blessed people come to my aid, it’s important I show up for others. It may
be a direct giving back as in doing something for someone who’s done something
for me, but more likely it is doing something for someone else—again, the
paying it forward concept.
There
are other beliefs that support the win-win way of life: What Goes Around Comes Around. Another way of saying the same thing
is What You Give Out Comes Back To You
Tenfold.
Since
I really don’t want Tenfold of Negativity in my life, I make a point to put out
Positivity.
What
does it take to live a win-win way of life? First and foremost I think it
requires us to be aware of the people around us and how we interact with them.
Do
we really listen to people, being fully present in the moment of the
conversation? The
Dalai Lama is the first person to
come to mind as I write this. I know few people who are consistently that
present in every conversation. It’s something I aspire to.
Do
we pay attention to how our actions and decisions impact others? Since I
writing this in July, I’ll use 4th of July as an example. Where I
live in Oregon has banned almost all fireworks for a variety of reasons but
people can still purchase them in other states and bring them here.
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For
several days before the 4th all news channels have pieces about the
trauma of fireworks on animals and some of our veterans as well as the severe
injuries incurred when something goes wrong—and yet? Around 11 p.m. on July 1st
my house shook and the vibration of a loud boom echoed in my bones. I live a
block and a half from a schoolyard, a favorite place to shoot off fireworks. It
sounded like it was in my backyard or on my front porch.
It
isn’t that the people who set off those sonic booms had no other options. There
are several “official” fireworks display in the area as well as on television.
There are also legal fireworks.
Bottom-line,
at least from my perspective, a win-win way of life is based on making
decisions about what I want and what’s best for me that Do Not interfere with
you and what you want and what’s best for you.
Inevitably,
there will be times when the gap between us is not easy to close. In these
circumstances, calm conversation is required with both of us being in the
present and listening to each other from the point of view of finding a win-win
way forward. Remember, that kind of listening is very different from the type
of listening in order to garner more fuel for my way of thinking.
Next week? How do I see myself interacting with the world
around me?
If you are interested in learning a simple process to
find solutions to issues that are interfering with the quality of your life,
check out my latest non-fiction book Staying Sane in
a Crazy World.
Do
you ever feel as if the world around you is tumbling out of control and there
is nothing you can do to make your world a better place?
Do
you ever wish there was?
Staying Sane in a Crazy World
may help guide you toward stopping the tumbling and choosing how to take
effective control of your life.
The
reality is there is no One answer that fits all but we each have Our answer.
In
this short guide, Judith Ashley leads you through a straight-forward process
that allows you to find Your answers. Answers you’ll use to craft a Personal Staying Sane Plan that will
help you regain and keep your balance whenever the world around you is
out-of-whack.
Staying Sane is now available at your favorite e-retailer.
© 2018 Judith Ashley
