Judith Ashley is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series,
romantic fiction that honors spiritual traditions that nurture the soul. She is
also on the Senior Teaching Faculty of The William Glasser Institute.
Dr. William Glasser first came to notice in the 1960’s due to
his work at the Ventura School for Girls and the back wards of the V.A. Hospital
in Los Angeles. I heard of Dr. Glasser in the late 60’s but it was 1978 before
I took my first Basic Intensive Training. To learn more about this remarkable
man’s life, I encourage you to read “Champion of Choice” by Jim Roy.
Judgement
or if you prefer, evaluation, assessment, discernment, comparison (actually
there are even more names we use instead of ‘judgement’). For the sake of this
post, I’m using the term ‘judgement’ to include any word that describes how we
make decisions/choices.
If you
read my “All Behavior Is Purposeful” post, you know that Dr. Glasser teaches
that all we can do is behave and that all behavior is purposeful and it is our
best effort at the time to achieve something we want.
How does ‘judgement’
fit in to this?
Everything
we do is based on ‘judgement’. Here's a simple example.
Three
friends are out exploring their city on a warm summer afternoon. They decide to
stop at an outdoor café for something cold to drink.
First
judgement: it’s warm
Second
judgement: outdoor café
Third
judgement: something cold to drink
They
haven’t even seen the menu or ordered.
After
seeing the menu they order lemonade.
Fourth
judgement(s): checking out the menu, deciding on lemonade
Server
brings three identical glasses of lemonade. The friends clink their glasses
together in a toast to a fun day together and take a sip.
“This is
great lemonade,” one friend says licking her lips.
“Oh no,
it’s not sweet enough,” another friend says, her mouth puckering.
“You’re
both wrong,” says the third friend setting down her glass and pushing it away. “It’s
too sweet.”
This simple example translates to millions of judgements we make every
day.
Your mission,
if you choose to take it, is twofold.
One: Pay attention to the myriad of decisions/judgements you make every day.
Two: Ask yourself: How can I live my life without judgement? No food is too hot, cold, sweet, spicy. No bed too soft, hard, etc. No commute too long. And then come back next Monday and we'll proceed with the good and bad in judgement.
Also, I strongly encourage you to click here and
read “All Behavior Is Purposeful”. You may see your judgements in a whole new
light.
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author page.
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