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In love and light,
Judith aka Ahau 13
Monday, July 27, 2020
Monday, August 27, 2018
I'm Aware of How Others See Me
Judith Ashley
is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic fiction that honors
spiritual practices that nourish the soul and celebrates the journey from
relationship to romance.
What we’ve
covered:
How
often do we stop and consider what it would be like to be our spouse, our
child, our employer, our employee? (And yes, we always have a reason behind
what we choose to do).
Once
we make the effort to see ourselves through someone else’s eyes we take control
of our lives back. We can change how we project our image. 
Do
you ever feel as if the world around you is tumbling out of control and there
is nothing you can do to make your world a better place?
Staying Sane is now available at your favorite e-retailer.
Your Expectations of yourself are positive.
Your Motivation is internal.
Your Image of yourself is congruent with
your expectations.
Your Direction has specificity.
Your Control takes the form of personal
responsibility for your choices and actions.
Your Discipline includes internal perfect
practice.
You Esteem yourself.
You Live a Win-Win Life
How
often do we stop and reflect on how we are viewed by others?
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How
often do we stop and contemplate our impact on the world around us?
How
often do we stop and ponder or mull over the image we project?
And
why is it even important to do so?
Because
to be successful in living our lives, unless we are a hermit, we live in the
world. Being congruent from our image of ourselves doing our life’s work to
seeing that that is what we are projecting into the world takes awareness.
If
you are like me, there were times in your childhood and maybe even your early
adulthood when you had an experience and said to yourself, “I’ll never do that.”
Today’s
first self-awareness question.
What
is it you do that someone else stops and says in response (although most likely
not out loud and to our face) “I’ll never do that.” “I’ll never treat someone
like that.” “I’ll never say anything like that.”
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People
who know me, know there are issues I’m passionate about. Someone who doesn’t
know me may see me as angry when I’m engaged in a discussion on one of those
topics. When I realized that people were seeing me as angry, I made some
decisions as that’s not how I see myself.
Now
I often preface a statement with “I’m really passionate about — and then go on
to state my point of view.” I also will end with a bit of humor or insight such
as “time to get off my soap box” or maybe “preaching to the choir here” or “sometimes
my passion about (insert subject) takes on a life of its own.”
Without
the awareness that some people saw me as an angry person, I’d never have made
those changes.
Today’s
second self-awareness question.
Looking
back over your life, what changes have you made because you became aware of how
others saw you? Or What changes might you make so people see you as you want to
be seen?
And,
if you are interested in learning a simple process to find solutions to issues
that are interfering with the quality of your life, check out my latest
non-fiction book Staying Sane in a Crazy World.
Do
you ever feel as if the world around you is tumbling out of control and there
is nothing you can do to make your world a better place?
Do
you ever wish there was?
Staying Sane in a Crazy World
may help guide you toward stopping the tumbling and choosing how to take
effective control of your life.
The
reality is there is no One answer that fits all but we each have Our answer.
In
this short guide, Judith Ashley leads you through a straight-forward process
that allows you to find Your answers. Answers you’ll use to craft a Personal Staying Sane Plan that will
help you regain and keep your balance whenever the world around you is
out-of-whack.
Staying Sane is now available at your favorite e-retailer.
© 2018 Judith Ashley
Monday, August 20, 2018
I Live A Win-Win Life
Judith Ashley
is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic fiction that honors
spiritual practices that nourish the soul and celebrates the journey from
relationship to romance.
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What we’ve
covered:
Your Expectations of yourself are positive.
Your Motivation is internal.
Your Image of yourself is congruent with
your expectations.
Your Direction has specificity.
Your Control takes the form of personal
responsibility for your choices and actions.
Your Discipline includes internal perfect
practice.
You Esteem yourself.
You
want to be successful, maybe you are well on the road to your goal and maybe,
just maybe you’ve arrived. So, how do
you wear your success? Are you an in it to win it regardless person? Or are you
in the win-win camp? I win if you win and vice-versa.
One
of my favorite movies is Pretty Woman. I love that movie on many levels but
in particular the growth Edward makes from being a ruthless business man to one
with compassion touches my heart.
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| A Favorite Book that Speaks My Truth |
And,
being a member of the romance writers’ community more often than not I’m in a
win-win atmosphere. The concept of “pay it forward” is alive and well. It’s an
every-day-kind-of-event for other writers to offer their expertise, many times
for free, to help me or someone else through a tough patch whether in their writing
or non-writing life.
While
I am blessed people come to my aid, it’s important I show up for others. It may
be a direct giving back as in doing something for someone who’s done something
for me, but more likely it is doing something for someone else—again, the
paying it forward concept.
There
are other beliefs that support the win-win way of life: What Goes Around Comes Around. Another way of saying the same thing
is What You Give Out Comes Back To You
Tenfold.
Since
I really don’t want Tenfold of Negativity in my life, I make a point to put out
Positivity.
What
does it take to live a win-win way of life? First and foremost I think it
requires us to be aware of the people around us and how we interact with them.
Do
we really listen to people, being fully present in the moment of the
conversation? The
Dalai Lama is the first person to
come to mind as I write this. I know few people who are consistently that
present in every conversation. It’s something I aspire to.
Do
we pay attention to how our actions and decisions impact others? Since I
writing this in July, I’ll use 4th of July as an example. Where I
live in Oregon has banned almost all fireworks for a variety of reasons but
people can still purchase them in other states and bring them here.
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For
several days before the 4th all news channels have pieces about the
trauma of fireworks on animals and some of our veterans as well as the severe
injuries incurred when something goes wrong—and yet? Around 11 p.m. on July 1st
my house shook and the vibration of a loud boom echoed in my bones. I live a
block and a half from a schoolyard, a favorite place to shoot off fireworks. It
sounded like it was in my backyard or on my front porch.
It
isn’t that the people who set off those sonic booms had no other options. There
are several “official” fireworks display in the area as well as on television.
There are also legal fireworks.
Bottom-line,
at least from my perspective, a win-win way of life is based on making
decisions about what I want and what’s best for me that Do Not interfere with
you and what you want and what’s best for you.
Inevitably,
there will be times when the gap between us is not easy to close. In these
circumstances, calm conversation is required with both of us being in the
present and listening to each other from the point of view of finding a win-win
way forward. Remember, that kind of listening is very different from the type
of listening in order to garner more fuel for my way of thinking.
Next week? How do I see myself interacting with the world
around me?
If you are interested in learning a simple process to
find solutions to issues that are interfering with the quality of your life,
check out my latest non-fiction book Staying Sane in
a Crazy World.
Do
you ever feel as if the world around you is tumbling out of control and there
is nothing you can do to make your world a better place?
Do
you ever wish there was?
Staying Sane in a Crazy World
may help guide you toward stopping the tumbling and choosing how to take
effective control of your life.
The
reality is there is no One answer that fits all but we each have Our answer.
In
this short guide, Judith Ashley leads you through a straight-forward process
that allows you to find Your answers. Answers you’ll use to craft a Personal Staying Sane Plan that will
help you regain and keep your balance whenever the world around you is
out-of-whack.
Staying Sane is now available at your favorite e-retailer.
© 2018 Judith Ashley
Monday, August 13, 2018
I Like Myself
Judith Ashley
is the author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic fiction that honors
spiritual practices that nourish the soul and celebrates the journey from
relationship to romance.
Your Expectations of yourself are positive.
Do you?
Can you see the triumph?
If you are interested in learning a simple process to
find solutions to issues that are interfering with the quality of your life,
check out my latest non-fiction book Staying Sane in
a Crazy World.
What we’ve
covered:
Your Expectations of yourself are positive.
Your Motivation is internal.
Your Image of yourself is congruent with
your expectations.
Your Direction has specificity.
Your Control takes the form of personal
responsibility for your choices and actions.
Your Discipline includes internal perfect
practice.
Self-esteem. When I taught school as well as when I
worked with various client groups in social services, self-esteem was something
I paid attention to. Some people describe self-esteem as having confidence in
oneself. However, I’ve seen confidence become arrogant, domineering behavior.
To me that person actually has low self-esteem.
What is another way to look at self-esteem? From my point
of view it is simple - I like myself. I see my faults, my rough edges, my
idiosyncrasies, those things about me that I’m working to change and I still
like who I am, who I’ve become choice by choice, experience by experience over,
in my case, decades of life.
Do you?
Do you like yourself?
Do you see how your life experiences, your choices have
created the person you are today?
Can you see the triumph?
Can you acknowledge the failures as learning experiences?
Can you trust there is a way to change if that’s what you
want to do?
If your answers are “no” to any of the questions, why?
Why don’t you?
What would need to be different in order for you to see
the triumphs in your life? To trust you can change if you want to?
One of my favorite people is the late Louise Hay. In her
ground-breaking book You Can Heal Your
Life Louise shares her own story of healing from an abusive childhood, serious
illness, etc. One of her exercises I use to this day is “Mirror Work.”
It’s really very simple:
Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and
say out loud “I love you.”
You can also vary the statement and say words like
“You are beautiful.” Or
“You are so smart.” Or
“I believe in you.”
It can be uncomfortable at first but stick with it. If
you don’t start with “Yes, I know.” because you can barely keep the eye
contact, know that in time you will be able to respond in a firm voice, perhaps with a bit of enthusiasm even “Yes, I know.”
Next week? How
do I see myself interacting with the world around me?
If you are interested in learning a simple process to
find solutions to issues that are interfering with the quality of your life,
check out my latest non-fiction book Staying Sane in
a Crazy World.
Do you
ever feel as if the world around you is tumbling out of control and there is
nothing you can do to make your world a better place?
Do
you ever wish there was?
Staying Sane in a Crazy World
may help guide you toward stopping the tumbling and choosing how to take
effective control of your life.
The
reality is there is no One answer that fits all but we each have Our answer.
In
this short guide, Judith Ashley leads you through a straight-forward process
that allows you to find Your answers. Answers you’ll use to craft a Personal Staying Sane Plan that will
help you regain and keep your balance whenever the world around you is
out-of-whack.
Staying Sane is now available at your favorite e-retailer.
© 2018 Judith Ashley
Monday, August 6, 2018
I Know How To Practice Perfectly
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What we’ve
covered:
Your Expectations of yourself are positive.
Your Motivation is internal.
Your Image of yourself is congruent with
your expectations.
Your Direction has specificity.
Your Control takes the form of personal
responsibility for your choices and actions.
Today
we’re talking about Self-Discipline. Neither Dr. Denis Waitley nor Dr. William Glasser
see self-discipline as a demanding, harsh “make yourself” do it practice.
Waitley
talks about self-discipline as internally practicing those attributes you need
to be successful.
Glasser
talks about self-discipline being a behavior we choose that helps us be
successful in our endeavors.
Perfect
Practice is not only about practicing – it’s about Perfect Practice. And, where
can we engage in Perfect Practice? In our creative minds.
If
you follow any sport you’ll see the athlete, before they take that shot, throw
that picture, swing that bat, shoot down the ski slope or take to the ice, go
within where they “see” or imagine themselves perfectly performing. In their
imaginations they never fall, miss a shot or fail.
Dr.
Waitley tells the stories of POW’s, musicians, Olympic athletes and astronauts
using Perfect Practice. These stories are amazing and I encourage you to either
purchase Dr. Waitley’s book or audio program to hear the details.
In
his book Positive Addiction, Dr.
Glasser writes about people who use a positive behavior over and over and over
until they have the same physical withdrawals a drug or alcohol addict has. One
of the things I learned when reading this book was that we can replace a
negative addiction with a positive one.
To
master the quality of self-discipline, we practice being successful. We see
ourselves engaged in the activity whether it is on the tennis court or leading
a seminar. We visualize ourselves on the clay or grass court, on the stage at
the podium. We mentally practice our backhand, our serve, we see ourselves
engaged with the audience, our voice and gestures adding to the content of our
presentation. We may even sit in the stands and visualize ourselves on the
court, making every serve, returning every shot. We may stand on the stage,
behind the podium while mentally running through what we want to say.
And
in that mental moment before it becomes our physical moment, we see ourselves
at our best, matching that self-image we have of ourselves. It isn’t about
practicing, it’s about Perfect Practice. And, it’s about liking ourselves just
as we are while still striving to improve.
Next week? Do I “esteem”
the person I see in the mirror?
If you are interested in learning a simple process to
find solutions to issues that are interfering with the quality of your life,
check out my latest non-fiction book Staying Sane in
a Crazy World.
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Do
you ever wish there was?
Staying Sane in a Crazy World
may help guide you toward stopping the tumbling and choosing how to take
effective control of your life.
The
reality is there is no One answer that fits all but we each have Our answer.
In
this short guide, Judith Ashley leads you through a straight-forward process
that allows you to find Your answers. Answers you’ll use to craft a Personal Staying Sane Plan that will
help you regain and keep your balance whenever the world around you is
out-of-whack.
Staying Sane is now available at your favorite e-retailer.
© 2018 Judith Ashley
Monday, July 23, 2018
I'm Going There!
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You look at the task and
decide “I Can Do It.”
And, you know “I Want To Do It."
Upon further review you see “That’s Who I Am.”
These first three steps are important but without the specificity
of Direction, of That's Where I'm Going! your chances of arriving at your goal are minimal.
Knowing
you can do it and wanting to do it and seeing yourself with the trapping of success
are very different aspects of reaching your goal.
Using
myself as an example again. As an author I know I can write books and I want to
write books. I see myself as an author. But without Self-Direction, I’d not be a
multi-published author.
In
order to be a multi-published author, at a minimum I had to have characters,
setting, and plot. I had to have a lot more than that to get a book written and
published but I did say “at a minimum.”
So
often we set our goals in global terms.
We
want to be financially secure.
We
want to be happy.
We
want to be healthy.
Because
I write romance, all my characters want to be loved.
But
what do those words “financially secure,” “happy,” “healthy,” and “loved” mean.
What’s
true is that we each have our own personal picture of what those words mean. We
can see in our internal eye what our life will be like when we are financially
secure, happy, healthy and loved.
The
question is whether or not we’ve spent the time defining the intimate details
of those pictures. This time let's use "financially secure" as our example.
How
much money is “financially secure”? That’s changed for me over my lifetime.
When I first worked outside of babysitting (at $.25 an hour), I was paid $0.90 an hour. When
minimum wage went up to $1.00 we were all ecstatic. At that time making $10,000
a year was a fantasy. I could travel around the world if I made that much. Now
I need $6000 a year for property taxes and insurance! No longer can I live on a
gross income of $500 a month like I did when first starting out on my own. (Oh,
and I was a single parent not getting the court ordered $10.00 a week child support on a
regular basis).
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What
my characters face is what we all face. We must have these first four aspects
of success in place before the actions in the next six steps have a chance of
leading us to a successful outcome.
Here’s
my author example to illustrate where we are on this journey:
My
expectations as an author? Yes, I can
write novels and non-fiction.
And
I want to write novels and books.
Writing is fun.
When
I started writing the first book in my Sacred Women’s Circle series, I could
see rudiments of story and/or character in all seven books. I saw myself at the computer and with my
name of the covers of books on the shelf.
From
the beginning I saw the whole stories with characters and setting. I heard the dialogue in my mind, saw
characters move around a scene and felt their joy and pain as the story unfolded.
Now
it’s your turn. Pick a goal and follow along. You’ll be pleased and maybe a bit
amazed at how easy this part can be.
Next
week? Seeing Self-Control in a whole new way. And Click Here to start at the beginning of this series.
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Do
you ever feel as if the world around you is tumbling out of control and there
is nothing you can do to make your world a better place?
Do
you ever wish there was?
Staying
Sane in a Crazy World may help guide you toward stopping the tumbling and
choosing how to take effective control of your life.
The
reality is there is no One answer that fits all but we each have Our answer.
In
this short guide, Judith Ashley leads you through a straight-forward process
that allows you to find Your answers. Answers you’ll use to craft a Personal Staying Sane Plan that will
help you regain and keep your balance whenever the world around you is
out-of-whack.
Staying
Sane is now available at your favorite e-retailer.
© 2018 Judith Ashley
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